Why recognizing when your attention wanders may be just as important as learning to concentrate.
Have you ever been reading a book, reached the bottom of the page, and realized you have absolutely no idea what you just read?
Your eyes were moving across the words. You might even have turned the page. But somewhere along the way, your mind went on vacation without telling you.
Maybe you started thinking about tomorrow’s schedule, a conversation you had yesterday, or what you need from the grocery store.
Whatever happened, you weren’t reading anymore.
Now here’s the interesting question: When did you actually stop paying attention?
Was it halfway down the page? After the first paragraph? Or had your mind checked out before you even started?
Chances are, you don’t know. And that is precisely what makes attention regulation so interesting.
For people with ADHD, losing focus can be a frequent frustration. But there’s another aspect of attention that deserves just as much consideration: recognizing when you’ve become distracted and knowing how to bring your attention back.
We Spend a Lot of Time Talking About Focus. What About Awareness?
In more than 30 years of working with children and adults who struggle with attention, I’ve found that much of the conversation about ADHD centers on staying focused.
We tell children to pay attention. We remind teenagers to stay on task. We encourage adults to eliminate distractions, turn off notifications, and find a quiet place to work.
All reasonable suggestions.
But there’s a piece missing.
What happens when you don’t realize you’ve become distracted in the first place?
Think about how easily this happens. You’re writing an email when a notification appears on your phone. You glance at it, respond to a message, notice another notification, and suddenly you’re scrolling through photos from someone’s vacation.
Twenty minutes later, you look up and wonder how you got there.
It’s almost impressive how efficiently the brain can abandon an assignment without filing the proper paperwork.
The challenge isn’t simply that your attention wandered. It’s that you didn’t recognize what was happening until much later.
This is where we need to talk about a cognitive skill that doesn’t receive nearly enough attention: metacognition.
Metacognition: Knowing What Your Brain Is Doing
Metacognition is often described as thinking about your thinking.
It’s the ability to step back and become aware of your own mental processes.
When it comes to attention, this includes recognizing whether you’re engaged in what you’re supposed to be doing or whether your thoughts have drifted elsewhere.
Researchers sometimes refer to this as meta-awareness, becoming consciously aware of what your mind is doing in the moment.
A review published in Trends in Cognitive Sciences explored how our minds can wander without our immediate awareness. The researchers described an important distinction between the experience of mind wandering and the moment we consciously recognize that it’s happening.
In other words, paying attention and being aware of your attention are not quite the same thing.
Think about the last time you drove along a familiar route and suddenly realized you’d traveled several miles while thinking about something completely unrelated to driving.
You were operating the vehicle, but how aware were you of where your attention was directed?
Or consider a child who is supposed to be completing a math worksheet. The child looks up after several minutes, only then realizing they’ve been staring out the window instead.
Simply saying “pay attention” doesn’t teach someone how to recognize that their attention has shifted.
And you can’t intentionally correct something you haven’t yet noticed.
For someone with ADHD, who may already find it difficult to regulate attention consistently, this adds another layer to the challenge. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention identifies difficulties managing attention, completing tasks, and controlling behavior among the challenges adults with ADHD may experience.
Getting Distracted Isn’t the Whole Problem
Let’s establish something important: everyone gets distracted.
Even people who don’t have ADHD occasionally lose their place during a conversation, forget what they were doing, or discover they’ve been staring at the same spreadsheet for 10 minutes.
The goal should never be to create a person who is perfectly focused every moment of the day.
That would be unrealistic. And frankly, a little exhausting.
What we’re really interested in is developing greater control over attention.
Consider two people working on the same task.
Both become distracted by an unrelated thought.
The first person follows that thought, moves on to another activity, and doesn’t return to the original task until much later.
The second person notices their attention wandering, recognizes the distraction, and makes a deliberate decision to return to the task.
Both experienced distraction.
The difference is what happened afterward.
The second person used attention awareness and self-regulation to redirect their behavior.
This is an important concept when we talk about executive function. Our ability to monitor what we’re doing, recognize when we’re off track, and adjust our behavior supports goal-directed activity.
Of course, noticing a distraction doesn’t automatically make it easy to resist. ADHD can affect several interacting cognitive processes, including inhibitory control and sustained attention.
But recognition gives us an opportunity to make a different choice.
The important skill isn’t simply holding your attention. It’s recognizing when you’ve lost it and practicing how to bring it back.
What Does Practicing Attention Awareness Actually Look Like?
Here’s something you can try.
Choose a task that requires about 10 minutes of concentration. It could be reading, paying bills, working on a report, or even organizing a closet.
Before beginning, clearly identify what you intend to accomplish.
Then start working.
As you go, notice when your mind wanders. You might suddenly remember something else you need to do. Perhaps you feel the urge to check your phone, or you realize you’ve been thinking about dinner instead of the task at hand.
When that happens, ask yourself a simple question:
Where is my attention right now?
If it’s no longer on the task you intended to complete, deliberately bring it back.
That’s it.
You’re not trying to achieve 10 minutes of perfect concentration. You’re practicing the process of noticing and redirecting attention.
And if you find yourself returning to the task repeatedly, don’t consider that a failure. Each time you notice where your attention has gone, you’ve created another opportunity to practice intentional redirection.
This simple exercise is not a treatment for ADHD, but it can help you explore how your own attention behaves.
It may also reveal something surprising: how often your attention shifts without your immediately realizing it.
Can Technology Help Us Become More Aware of Our Attention?
For decades, I’ve been interested in a particular question: What if people could receive feedback about changes in their attention while they’re happening?
Consider how we learn other skills.
When we’re learning to play a musical instrument, we can hear when a note is incorrect. When we’re learning a sport, we can see where the ball goes and adjust our movements.
That feedback provides information we can use to make corrections.
But attention is different. We can’t directly see it in the same way we can observe a golf swing or hear a piano note.
And if we don’t realize we’ve become distracted, how do we know when to make an adjustment?
This question is central to what we do at Play Attention.
Our NASA-inspired neurotechnology uses real-time feedback during interactive cognitive exercises. With the BodyWave® armband, users receive feedback related to their measured attentional state as they practice sustaining attention and responding to changes during training.
One of our tools, Attention Monitor, is specifically designed to support awareness and intentional regulation of attention. Users receive real-time feedback as they practice recognizing shifts in their attention and making deliberate adjustments while completing real-life activities.
Whether you’re completing homework, participating in a meeting, or staying engaged during a conversation, the goal is to develop greater awareness and control over where your attention goes.
That’s the power of real-time feedback: it makes something as invisible as attention observable, giving you the opportunity to recognize when your focus shifts and practice bringing it back.
The Next Time Your Mind Wanders…
Rather than immediately becoming frustrated with yourself, try getting curious.
How long was your attention somewhere else before you realized it?
What pulled you away?
And what helped you return?
You may begin recognizing patterns. Perhaps your attention wanders more when you’re tired, when a task is repetitive, or when there’s too much competing information.
That awareness can help you identify when additional support or a different strategy might be useful.
ADHD can make attention regulation challenging, and learning to manage it often requires a combination of approaches, including environmental supports, behavioral strategies, and appropriate professional treatment.
But one concept is worth remembering.
Attention regulation isn’t about never losing focus. It’s about recognizing when your attention has shifted and developing the ability to intentionally bring it back.
Your mind will wander. That’s part of being human.
The question is whether you’ll notice before you’ve finished scrolling through 47 vacation photos from someone you haven’t spoken to since high school.
And when you do notice, you’ll have an opportunity to choose where your attention goes next.
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About the Author
Gwen Sorley, M.Ed., is Vice President and COO of Play Attention. Since 1996, she has worked with children and adults experiencing ADHD and executive function challenges, helping them develop stronger attention regulation and cognitive skills through neurotechnology and individualized training.
